When you’re kind, boundaries sounds like you’re keeping people out. In this episode, Randi Buckley reframes boundaries for us in a way that is actually exciting!
Her coaching clients say “Randi is equal parts Pema Chodron, Sofia Loren and Clint Eastwood, with a splash of George Carlin,” and we couldn’t agree more. From one-on-one coaching to executive training and consulting, Randi has made a difference in the lives of so many, including working with The Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences (aka The Oscars), Canyon Ranch Spa, Stanford University and too many more to list. In this episode Randi talks about tactile ways to create boundaries in our lives around people, food, exercise etc. The holidays can be a paint point of stress, over eating and family drama, so let’s talk about how to navigate through it all with ease.
An appetizer of the episode? Randi offers these loving tips, especially if you feel awkward about dietary restrictions or wanting healthy options:
- Before you arrive at Thanksgiving or a party, ask your host what they’d love to get out of the experience. Not what can you bring per se, but what their hopes are as a host.
This clarity then allows you to respect their wishes and how that fits into your dietary or other needs. Having this conversation opens up intimacy and alleviates the anxious assumption that your needs are in conflict or a burden to your host.
- Channel your wiser, emotionally healthier self with this question when things get tense, “a year from now, how do you wish you would have handled this?”
I love this because as I share with my clients, when you’re over-analyzing what to eat, it’s not about the food. It’s a vulnerability landmine. This question reminds us that we’re not the 10 year old who is in pain even though certain triggers time travel us right back there.
More About Randi
Randi Buckley is an international coach, mentor, retreat leader, and writer, whose work helps women find their truth and be at peace with it. She is the creator of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, Maybe Baby, Depressed. Like Me, and The Viking Woman Workshop. She is mama to Ravn and in her free time, untangles whales from fishing gear in the Monterey Bay. You can find her at randibuckley.com.