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The material is the exact same, although I have freshly updated the WAIETN Live group (those updates will come to the self-study in 2024).

The difference is the live version provides the support of a dynamic community and “office hours” calls with me. If you want to dive into the material now, get the self-study version, and then you can join the live version in September 2023.

Your investment in the self-study version ($500) is credited toward your enrollment in the live version ($1,000). So you have nothing to lose! This material is about developing a practice of clarity and freedom from stress: each time you work with it, you go deeper and get greater results because you’re at a different place!

I don’t believe people are addicted to food. As they say in the addiction world, the opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety. It’s connection.

I think people don’t have the right mindset to feel deeply connected to the support they need in their lives, including living their true values, not the one culture tells us matters. And so they turn to food. And telling people they’re addicted to food only makes them feel less connected to their true essence.

Think about it: There have been times when you weren’t triggered by certain foods where you can’t just eat one or a little. Haven’t there been times when you’ve said no to the fries or you were able to “resist” getting dessert?

Maybe it was at the beginning of a diet. Or when you isolated yourself from social situations where food would tempt you. Or when you were in a really good place in your life. What changed wasn’t the food. It was your internal and external environments. This shift in focus away from food and into your environmental triggers is life changing liberating.

Having said this, this group process isn’t for people with active anorexia or you are purging. The physiology of being desensitized to highly-palatable foods does take time to heal and might require more one on one attention and in conjunction with healing your blood sugar.

I totally get this. Why wouldn’t you feel this way? When I was fighting food and my body, I thought I was trying all these different things only to end in the same vicious cycle.

What I couldn’t see then was everything I was trying – diets, functional medicine, and 30-day sugar free challenges – weren’t different in that they all involved deprivation and didn’t meet me where I was in my life.

The first thing is in WAIETN, we redefine “what works”. It’s not about following any rules or plan (there are no rules to follow!). It’s about cultivating more and more self-trust. Part of this self-trust is to be where you are in your life.

Second, cultivating more self-trust in WAIETN is about developing more capacity for satisfaction, not deprivation. In WAIETN, we address the root cause of why we feel emotionally deprived.

This work is trusting food and well-being is about freedom, fulfillment and simplicity, not sacrifice and sprouts.

The only thing you will have to give up in WAIETN are your old stories about needing to feel deprived to get the results you want.

This is the most common question and fear that prevents people from working with me and part of why I created Why Am I Eating This Now?. It’s a much lower risk and still provides a complete paradigm shift around battling food and what else is possible. Part of the process starts when you question that frozen or fear feeling as truth and take the risk to challenge yourself.

This work meets you where you are in terms of self-awareness so it’s never repeated. It changes you so that anytime you revisit the material, you’re a different person who understands yourself and your needs more deeply.

It’s like when I read the Great Gatsby in high school. I thought it was a love story. In my 20s, I looked at the book as a commentary on class and power dynamics. And now, I’m looking at this book through the filter of race and the construct of whiteness. As you change the filter you bring to the world, which the Truce with Food material does on a radical level, you continue to see yourself and your life in deeper layers.

Most of my clients are highly critical of themselves. They confuse this self-monitoring with self-awareness. They’re great at managing their image externally, less adept at knowing what’s internally driving them. They’re often shocked at how liberating it is to see the patterns and connections they discover because seeing and then changing these patterns guarantee lasting change.

It takes about a year of working with the material to feel masterful with it. I created Why Am I Eating This Now? to create profound shifts in your self-awareness and build a skill-set that will only strengthen and deepen if you decide to take Truce with Food. If you want to take both, you’ll be well prepared for Truce with Food and will get even more value out of it. So there’s only upside to starting here.

And, you might not need Truce with Food after Why Am I Eating this Now?. The Fall program is a hearty version of my methodology that is designed to be empowering and life changing on its own

If you have an FSA or HSA account, most likely. Many clients pay directly with their HSA credit cards and successfully submitted their receipts to their FSA accounts. However, check with your plan as each of them do vary.

Why Am I Eating This Now? can definitely support you. I’ve had past clients be amazed at how their stomach issues got resolved as their stress profoundly reduced. You cannot heal to the fullest extent or stick with the food changes necessary if you don’t address the emotional patterns that contributed to your physical symptoms.

By the time we are officially diagnosed with a chronic issue, there’s usually been unaddressed overwhelm or stress on us for years. What my clients come to realize is what I experienced when I wanted to fully get rid of my depression and IBS: being able to transform emotional overwhelm into rewarding outcomes is the missing piece in exceptional healing. In other words, the emotional component is as important as the food.

We won’t be addressing the food (i.e. no food experiments) in Why Am I Eating This Now?. However, the emotional transformation is as critical to your healing and, it will make implementing the food changes easier.

Great question. I’ll break this into two parts. First off, do people show up and do the work? Last round of Truce with Food, which Why Am I Eating this Now? pulls from but doesn’t go as deep, 90% of people showed up and did the work. This is far above average than most programs. Clients who’ve never finished any program before have finished my programs because they’ve learned how their stress pattern makes them de-prioritize their selves over others or avoid the work.

Once they see this pattern and are given the tools to correct this pattern, they continue to show up, surprising themselves.

This question also implies how many people have sustainability after the program. Both of these are important questions. If you’re asking: can I do this, can I show up, can I do the work? Can I continue to make the changes in my life? Yes. I assure you you can do this. This isn’t a diet. This isn’t a plan. This doesn’t require willpower like you imagine. This is a skill-set anyone who is willing can learn.

Many people imagine they will be “fixed”, like a light switch going off. But that’s not what happens (because you aren’t broken). Rather, how we truly change is a gradual feeling of more life freedom and more consistent food choices, on our terms. As clients feel this relief and freedom, they stick with the tools because they are internally inspired, rather than depending on the scale for motivation. In their words, “I’m actually doing this for me. I want to want to be healthy.”

This is for anyone who wants to stop the insanity of fighting food and get off the merry-go-round. Why Am I Eating this Now? is a completely new orientation to how you think, act and respond to overwhelm in your life. The change is self-evident and creates a desire to continue to do the work because you’re finally getting results from the effort you put in. It’s like a snowball going down the hill, with more and more momentum.

Life today is one constant busy season. Especially for those who tend to gravitate towards my work. However, your life is your classroom. In other words, you’ll be experimenting with new ways of being in your life. It’s not “separate” from your life.

And this program is designed for the on-the-go lifestyle. It does require about two hours every two weeks for maximum benefit.  Many participants have said this work actually creates time for you by getting you clear on what you value so you are living a “less is more” lifestyle, which frees up energy and time. Plus, they become inspired from more results with less on their literal and metaphorical plates.

However, if life takes a wild turn, all instructional materials are yours for life—so even if your schedule happens to change, you can still get the full value of the program when you’re ready.

I call myself a bad joiner so I understand your hesitation. Most of my clients are “bad joiners” because they’re non-dogmatic people. They’ve been in groups either where they felt like they’ve carried the group instead of being supported by it or couldn’t challenge what was being said (i.e. group think was encouraged and the group leader was put on a pedestal). This doesn’t happen with the community we’ve cultivated here. We bring our whole selves to this work and you will be supported, often in ways you’ve never been supported before or didn’t know you needed. My clients are some of the most thoughtful, kind and compassionate people I have ever met in my life.

Also, many clients realize their shame and hesitation to participate in a group is not their true personality but part of their own stress response to being in groups with women and the perceived judgment.  We’ve been conditioned to compete with other women in the area of beauty and body, the only suitable area patriarchy makes it safe to be competitive because it prevents women joining together to bring the system down (and there are people, Capitalists included, who benefit from women spending their resources on their looks for various reasons).

This results in more isolation and a disproportionate sense of shame that you are alone in struggling with food and stress. I am skilled at creating a safe space for us to explore our food and stress patterns. Participating in this safe group allows you to experience you really aren’t alone and enables you to more quickly dissolve your separateness and feel safe. You’ll find the group becomes more rewarding than you can imagine right now (“the group was a game changer” is some of the most consistent feedback from program alumni, many who also feel this shame coming into the group).

Also, we take everyone as is and I encourage deep inquiry and debate. Because this is new territory, and as Dr. Brene Brown says, we are braving the wilderness together, we all learn from each other.

Having said that, I’ve had some people stick to themselves and get incredible benefits. However most participants are impressed by the caliber of heart the women in the group and want to participate and get incredible value from the support and ideas of these other open-minded and compassionate women.

A healthy skeptic. I totally get it. This isn’t a traditional program in that you’re reading and assimilating material. Aside from my approach being like nothing you’ve ever tried, this course is about genuine change, making it a completely new experience. There’s a radical difference between learning more and changing, which makes you feel different. You will have to get out of your comfort zone but not in the way you’re thinking about finding more willpower or discipline for food. It’s about challenging yourself to show up differently in your life.

If you’re still not sure after reading this program page, I recommended listening to this episode of my Insatiable podcast, or Season 5, which focused on Eating Triggers. You’ll get a clearer sense of how this is different. And, if after that you still aren’t sure, don’t take the program. You don’t want to bring intense doubt and fear to this process – this makes us resistant to self-exploration and trying new things. You may find, at another point in the future, this message resonates better and the program will be here if you eventually decide it is the right path for you.

Yes. This program could also be called “Why Am I So Stressed, Having a Panic Attack, or Burnt Out?” Some of us turn to food, some of us stop eating, and some of us turn to screens, shopping, or workaholism. All of these behaviors, that cause our health to decline and us to act out of alignment with our goals, are driven by the same root cause: how we react to stress. And this program will provide the self-discovery and tools so you can now choose how you respond to the triggers that make you eat, worry or zone out on a screen.

Because this process is so unique to each person (no formulas or rules to follow), my group programs are intentionally small. I’ve found to get the transformation clients are hungry for, smaller yields bigger impact. I expect about 20 people. There will never be so many people that makes you feel like a factory farmed animal going through some assembly line program. These groups tend to attract independent thinkers so if you’ve traditionally been a “bad joiner” you may find you’ve been welcomed home.

My work is a wonderful compliment to AA and/or therapy.

About 25% of my clients are in AA and most of them tell me, “this is what AA is missing” and they love AA. This isn’t to say it’s an either or, just that this is different. And it has to be because while you can avoid alcohol, you can’t not eat. It’s also why 12-step food programs don’t work for most people. More restriction with food isn’t the answer. In Overeaters Anonymous (OA), which I tried myself, they often reinforce the all-or-nothing thinking and corresponding restrict-binge cycle with their “no white flour, no sugar, etc”.

My work is about getting to the root cause of why we turn to food and enable you to feel like you can eat just one of something (moderation is the new radical!).

And in my last program, one client who was also in therapy said she learned more about herself in six months of Truce with Food than 10 years of therapy (Why Am I Eating This Now? is the first several steps of Truce with Food).

I love therapy so again, this isn’t either/or, it’s just that this work is very today and action oriented whereas therapy is often looking backwards and reflection. You need both.

Adult development, which my work is rooted in, is quite different and the people who do the best are the ones who have been in AA and/or therapy because they are comfortable reflecting.

And this work also works on changing the patterns of today (that come from the past) that we aren’t aware of, no matter how much therapy we’ve been in (I’ve done a lot of therapy myself and it never really moved the needle on my eating issues).