The competitor style was adapted from the Thomas-Kilmann conflict model.
Think: Am I ahead or behind?, Am I winning or losing?
Feel: Anger
Behaviors: Over-achieve, isolate
Self-Sabotage: Compare to others
Frames Situations: Success or Failure, Ahead or Behind
More About the Competitor
Competitors feel over the top, unstoppable confidence when losing weight and on track. In reality, it’s the risk-taking that increases confidence (not the weight loss) and what leads to achieving more success and happiness.
The challenge and life-changing opportunity for competitors:
To learn what success metrics matter the most to you (versus pre-packaged gold stars like 40 Under 40 or one of the youngest Senior Vice Presidents). Understanding what works best for our bodies and the impact we want to make with our lives versus what we think is the highest status option can be life-changing for the competitor.
This self-actualization is not an overnight process, but allows the Competitor to harness the incredible drive of being a competitor without the burn-out or boredom of normal, to make a truly unique impact when we go our own true way. We can better enjoy the process of accomplishment when it’s what we truly want and we realize we don’t have to choose between our health and life goals.
An accurate diagnosis of why you fall off track is critical. It’s the most strategic, effective place to start.
Competitors who continue to compete based on society’s definition of success will always find someone thinner or further ahead than ourselves. The “Once I get through this…” goal post will keep moving and competing will become increasingly unsustainable.
Over time, the Competitor eating pattern leads to isolation, as we feel different in a bad way about our weight and where we are in certain areas of life. The isolation creates a self-fulfilling prophecy as we miss out on the health, success and happiness from not engaging with the areas of life that mean a lot to us.
To learn more on this topic, check out this secret Insatiable podcast episode or transcript.
Be well and enjoy the journey,
