This is not Your Parent’s Health Care
Traditional health care is trained in disease management. It stops the bleeding. And cures your cancer (and you’ll be forever grateful).
But it also prescribes anti-anxiety meds and instructs you to “eat less, move more.” It doesn’t address why you feel out-of-control around food. There’s an empathy gap that doesn’t help you shift from stuck to liberated.You’re left in the murky middle of not critically ill yet sure as hell don’t want to keep living like this.
So you look to the wellness world. And it says: “You have to listen to your body.” But no one shows you how.
There are an infinite number of quality wellness tools from EFT to acupuncture.
Yet in all my work to find an approach that would explain which foods would keep us healthy, and why we weren’t eating them despite knowing better, I never found the answer. A solid framework for true body agency simply didn’t exist.
So I created one.
What’s Healthy for You
Truce with Food is a highly personalized system that works to liberate you from fighting food to live a life aligned with your truth. It is not a weight loss program; however, weight loss can be a side-effect.
I created Truce with Food because I never found a breakthrough process for finding what to eat, wanting to eat it, and keeping it just that simple. Diets meant deprivation. Self-care morphed into Don’t Care. Politics and Big Corporate interests are at the wheel of our medical system, making us believe we’re crazy and failing, not the other way around.
Someone needs to work from the intersection of food, psychology and change.
I acknowledge that it is a rebellious choice. I call out to all brave people who are choosing to escape cultural limitations imposed on them, reforming and transforming on their own terms. Because when you give brave people the ability to free themselves, they want more.
“This is what I needed but didn’t have language for.” — L.F.
“I’ve made more progress with your approach in three weeks than 25 years of therapy” — A.T.
Radical Truths for Every Body
We define healthy as ‘satiated and full of life’, not ‘deprived’
In our hyper-masculine culture, we frame the body and health in terms of war. Our body is our enemy, always frustrating us with insatiable cravings, mood swings and weight gain. As a result, every symptom, from weight gain to a Hashimoto’s diagnosis is approached from a deficit, from the position that there’s something wrong. When we believe we can be “fixed” with more willpower, food rules or a pill, we escalate the body battle.
“Staring Truce with Food, I thought I was going to learn about healthy nutrition, figure out how to tackle Hashimoto’s and touch on ’emotional stuff.’ I’m taking away with me SOOO much more knowledge and power than I could’ve imagined.” — J.P.
We replace self-criticism with self-awareness.
We beat ourselves up for our failures rather than seeing cravings, depression and weight gain as symptoms. These are calls to clarity, not battle cries.
When you know what foods work for you, it’s greater than an absence of cravings. You feel energized, content and confident.
When you work through why you auto-eat or binge, you don’t just stop overeating. You discover power, and reward, for unlocking your courage to make the choices aligned with the deepest dreams for your life.
“Truce with Food is not a plan, but a lifesaving journey.” — C.G.
You are a wonder, not a widget
The ‘body as machine’ metaphor pervades science, the media and corporations.
The mechanical, or widget view of the body is beloved by corporations like Weight Watchers and Big Pharma. By reducing you to a series of chemical reactions, there’s a one-size-fits-all formula. One-size-fits all means scale and maximum profits.
Profits require recurring revenue, which doesn’t happen when you solve the problem. If food plans or fancy shakes worked, eventually you wouldn’t need them. But that’s not good for business.
It’s never as simple as eat less, move more. The Truce with Food model aligns with the true dynamic nature of our bodies. It uses research-based nutrition and psychology that honors individuality to discover what foods work for you and what triggers eating for you, in order to produce life-changing results.
Generic “eat this, not that” and “do this, not that” rules lead to rebellion. We harness that rebellion to create food freedom by discovering: How do I become the person who doesn’t have to fight food?
“You’re the first nutrition person I know I won’t need for the rest of my life.” — K.L.
Trust your body, not a plan
Our culture is built upon an untrue hierarchy. Men over women. Logic over emotion. Doctor over patient.
As a result, most people have lost their innate compass that points to how they can feed and listen to themselves. After years of fighting food, we simply don’t trust our own judgement.
So we look for refuge in absolutes. People who don’t have religion often find nutrition. Veganism comes with a moral compass. Cross-Fit and Paleo provide instant community.
While these paths can work, they’re modeled on what worked for the “expert”. The experts are experts on their own diet, not what works best for you.
You don’t need more ways to monitor your food. You need a proven method to remove food from its position as front and center in your life.
Truce with Food reconnects you with your innate wisdom of how to feed yourself.
“Thanks to Truce with Food, I have permission to listen to my body and not the magazines! It’s a really a sweet combo of ease and awareness! I have much less judgment and more empathy for myself and others.” — B.D.
Our culture is a corset
We live in a sexist culture. Its continued existence depends on us being distracted from our agency and power. So it sells us pre-packaged, quick-fix health and beauty solutions for our deep, internal challenges. We feel powerful, but it’s temporary and dependent on something outside ourselves.
Then we’re told the cure for powerlessness is to ‘put ourselves first’ – our weight loss and health struggles are a result of a lack of self-care.And the way to put ourselves first is to buy $8 organic green smoothies, $30 natural skin care products and a beautiful wardrobe so we don’t wait on the weight.
The underlying sell is that these “pleasure” plans will be easy, instant, and pleasurable. The underlying truth is that quick fixes distract us from looking at anything too closely.And if we want to end the food and diet wars, we have to be willing to look at what’s actually true.
“Truce with Food raises excellent questions that helped me analyze parts of my thought process I had never questioned and beliefs I hadn’t realized I was living by. A huge weight has lifted from my shoulders and the way I look at food has changed dramatically. It doesn’t hold all the power it did before.” — D.D.
The goal is always Your Truth.
Feeling comfortable is no longer working. Feeling good is not the goal. Getting healthy is the goal. Discovering what’s true is the goal.
The truth is you deserve to make your mark on the world and live the life you were meant to live. Our world desperately needs people aligned with their truth.
And it’s only in doing hard things that you develop the resilience and courage required for making a big impact in the world.
You won’t get to taste that life if you’re busy chasing pleasure and fun, easy and instant ‘self-care’.
Loving yourself comes from being devoted to your own side, through the grit and the glory of rebuilding your own trust and courage.
The courage to trust yourself comes when you finally stop yearning for ‘normal’ in a very sick culture; when you discover who you really are, because you’ve stopped making food your focus.
The self-discovery process of Truce with Food isn’t any harder than living with a constant food battle. In the end, it will be one of the most rewarding things you do for yourself. Why not get a return on your investment for doing hard things?
You can do hard, magical things. After all, grit and glory go together like peanut butter and chocolate.
“Working with Ali was one of the hardest things I’ve done (and I had suffered with multiple eating and GI disorders). It was totally worth it because it enabled me to start living life for me, and that is priceless. And the scale means nothing to me now, a statement I never thought I’d say!” — L.R.
Curious Skeptics, Rebel Joiners, Desperate Dieters, Career Food Fighters let’s get to work.
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