I’ve gotten fantastic questions about Truce with Food: Tapas Style. I’m sharing them here in case you’ve been wondering the same thing.
I love your work Ali, I just don’t know if Truce with Food: Tapas Style will work for me.
I totally get this. So many programs promise to be different and yet underneath, they’re all different ways to cut calories or give you a formula (often not based on research) to manage your emotions.
And so the fear is as one interested person said to me:
I totally understand this fear. And most of my clients still have this fear even as they sign-up!
This is a process you can’t fail. It doesn’t require willpower in the traditional sense. In fact, imperfection is actually built into the material and expected so we can research what’s happening. Most science and life breakthroughs happen when we learn from what isn’t working.
Having said that, this process is challenging. But the challenge is being willing to be a beginner and continue to show up when you’re new (i.e. not the best at) at building a new skill set. This can be uncomfortable for perfectionists and those with an all-or-nothing mindset.
Yet as one of my clients shared, this process requires being “uncomfortable in the most freeing way”. We laughed because that might seem paradoxical. But paradox is truth. Once you can be with your emotions, you feel powerful and free. Our emotions control us whether we understand them or not. So to finally have choices other than eat in discomfort, is life-changing liberation.
If you can commit to showing up when you feel imperfect, this process will work for you. There’s not a formula for success or failure here. There is a methodical process that meets everyone exactly where they are in their self-awareness. It’s the opposite of having a bunch of rules to follow that only fuel the battle and a sense of failure.
This is the most common question and fear that prevents people from working with me and part of why I created the Tapas Style of Truce with Food. It’s a much lower risk and still provides a complete paradigm shift around battling food and what else is possible. Part of the process starts when you question that frozen or fear feeling as truth and take the risk to challenge yourself.
I don’t know if I should do Truce with Food: Tapas Style or wait till Truce with Food in February 2018.
This work meets you where you are in terms of self-awareness so it’s never repeated. It changes you so that anytime you revisit the material; you’re a different person who understands yourself and your needs more deeply.
It’s like when I read the Great Gatsby in high school. I thought it was a love story. In my 20s, I looked at the book as a commentary on class and power dynamics. And now, I’m looking at this book through the filter of race and the construct of whiteness. As you change the filter you bring to the world, which the Truce with Food material does on a life-changing level, you continue to see yourself and your life in deeper layers.
Most of my clients are highly critical of themselves yet not as self-aware. Their judgement often blocks the very self-awareness they need to get out of battling food.
They’re great at managing their image externally and knowing how to “read a room”, yet less adept at knowing what’s internally driving them. They’re often shocked at how liberating it is to see the patterns and connections they discover because seeing and then changing these patterns guarantee lasting change.
It takes about a year of working with the material to feel masterful with it. I created Truce with Food: Tapas Style to create profound shifts in your self-awareness and build a skill-set that will only strengthen and deepen if you decide to take Truce with Food in February. If you want to take both, you’ll be well prepared for Truce with Food and will get even more value out of it.
And, you might not need Truce with Food after the Tapas version. The Fall program is a hearty version of my methodology that is designed to be empowering and life changing on its own.
You say your clients are really accomplished. I don’t feel accomplished right now. Will I be out of place?
No! It isn’t unusual to feel “unaccomplished” even though you’ve had past successes. There’s a painful split between who you know yourself to be on the inside and who you often present yourself to be on the outside. The more conflict you have with food the more you can be sure there’s hope. I created Truce with Food because I knew there was a way to approach the situation differently. I wanted the same thing you want. To feel accomplished and aligned. For life to be easier and more meaningful.
I have gastritis, depression or trouble sticking with a food protocol I know I should. Can this program help me?
Truce with Food: Tapas Style can definitely support you. You cannot heal to the fullest extent or stick with the food changes necessary if you don’t address the emotional patterns that contributed to your physical symptoms.
By the time we are officially diagnosed with a chronic issue, there’s been unaddressed overwhelm or stress on us for years. What my clients come to realize is what I experienced when I wanted to fully get rid of my depression and IBS: being able to transform emotional overwhelm into rewarding outcomes is the missing piece in fully healing and feeling full agency in your body and healing path. In other words, the emotional component is as important as the food.
We won’t be addressing the food (i.e. no food experiments) in the Tapas Style version of Truce with Food. However, the emotional transformation is as critical to your healing and, it will make implementing the food changes easier.
I hope these questions help. If you have a remaining one that still hasn’t been answered here or in the FAQs on the program page, I have a few spots on my calendar for Monday to get clear if Truce with Food: Tapas Style is a right fit for you.